As we come to an age where running around like headless chooks has become the norm, we tend to forget that the simplistic things in life are often the most valuable. Getting up early each day, going to the gym, eating a wholesome breakfast, racing to the office, phone-call after phone-call, a bursting inbox, continuous meetings and never ending deadlines. Gahhhh!

Are you asking yourself ‘How could one possibly find the time to meet a woman, keep a woman or maintain a fulfilling relationship on top of all this?

Whether you are looking for love or already partnered up, these three valuable skills to master when interacting with woman will radically enhance your chances of a fulfilling and exciting journey with the fairer sex.

TIME
We all want more of it and it’s becoming a rarity to come by. More time to complete a project, more time on the weekends, more time to catch up with friends you haven’t seen for a while. The more rare it becomes, the more value is placed on it when you have it. We are the drivers of our own time and how we manage it depends on what we feel deserves that priority. Why would we want to spend more of our valuable time on something we truly don’t want to do? Wouldn’t you want to spend that on the things that we truly desire?

We get it, ‘You’re busy’, we are all. Have you thought about what you REALLY want though, despite all this busy-ness? Are you single, displaying a ‘living it up’ attitude to life but deep down yearn for a fulfilling relationship with a woman? Even if you are attached and the relationship has gone a little pear-shaped and you’re wondering where the connection has gone? Are you allowing the busy-ness to overtake to avoid the fact that priortising a potential love interest or current love interest has become all too hard to manage amongst it all? In actual fact you are the one that has created this so called busy-ness and only you can change it. If we are the drivers of our own time, then why not fill it with the things we really want to do.

 We give time to what we prioritise

 

Firstly setting aside the time to think about what it is you truly want, making a list of what your priorities are right here, right now, both professionally and most importantly personally then re-arranging that schedule. If it is a woman that you’d love to pursue or rekindle that flame with your current partner, then take a look on how and where you are placing your time. This will determine the level of value you place on particular things and in turn show you how much value is being placed back into your life from others. We only receive that in which we give out. Give that cute girl a call and set a time to catch up again, re-arrange that meeting and go meet your wife for lunch. In time, this sets up a more fulfilling, connected and manageable way to get through the day, balancing love and business.

PRESENCE
BIG ONE! Now that you’ve had a long hard think about what you want out of life and where you’re placing your time, being completely in the present with your woman is the most incredible gift to give. If you haven’t already noticed, we have a thousand things running through our minds each and every minute of the day. When we can be around our man who is present to what is happening and really give us the space to stop for a moment, both physically and mentally, then we can open up, let go and surrender. Walking in the door after a long day at work, switching off from the days events and allowing yourself to be in the space of your loved one by simply being there, means more to us than any bunch of flowers or shopping trip (but this helps too sometimes).

My presence speaks volumes before I say a word – Mos Def

 

Presence means being there, moment by moment, when she talks about her day and without having to necessarily give her an outcome, advice or direction on what to do next. Having you there is enough, knowing that you are radiating the pleasure of coming home to us so we can share stories and enjoy the evening together is what coming ‘home’ to is all about.

LISTENING EAR
Combining time and presence with a listening ear will ensure an ideal interaction each and every time. We want to be heard, really heard and we want to be supported in becoming the best versions of ourselves we could ever be. We are extremely judgmental characters on ourselves and by having a man there to support, inspire and listen to our view of the world is also profoundly valuable.

Even though I mentioned we don’t always want a solution to our problems, we do love to hear your point of view, maybe challenge us occasionally to allow us to view it in another perspective. We all love to be understood and listening in to what she is saying is what will earn even more points further down the track. How will you know how to surprise her when an occasion comes up? Have you been listening in to what she likes? I know you may think we speak in code at times, but really, we are telling you things we would love you to do all the time. All it takes is a little focus, an open ear and a burst of creativity to make it happen.

So if you have only captured one thing from this article and apply it wherever you feel is necessary in your life, I can assure you the results will astound you.

I understand there are men out there confused with the societal changes happening and where they place themselves amongst the equality debate in dating. Us, women are controlling a lot more than ever before and it places a strain on men to wonder where they sit in it all. When it comes to love, deep down and no matter how much freedom we have, all we want to hear from our men both verbally and in your actions are these three little words,

” I GOT THIS “

Anna Pola

Anna Pola is a Life Coach and Founder of Haart Creative. A coaching consultancy working with sassy, successful women to uncover their unique inner core. To live a life of fulfilment, certainty and love through unapologetic rawness and connection of self.

http://www.haartcreative.com.au